I did struggle a lot with this the #1000Speak July topic of Acceptance simply because I couldn’t think of a suitable topic to write about! It’s great to have a bloggy group to powwow ideas when one of us is stuck and within a few minutes of ‘conversation’, I decided that parents are a group of people who constantly need acceptance and compassion!
I feel like it’s not so much what the media tells me to aspire to that disturbs me; not what random strangers say; perhaps, not even so much how my friends and family feel about my parenting that keeps me second-guessing myself.
It’s the voices in my own head that constantly demands betterment and perfection. On the one hand, I stress about not giving my kids home-cooked meals everyday; on the other, whether I’m giving them enough freedom coupled with responsibility. I can go on; the list of my apparent failings is never-ending and I constantly question and berate myself.
Even though, I know these facts:
1. No parent is perfect.
2. No child is expects a perfect parent even though, in their eyes, you are perfect (except maybe for teens! LOL!)
3. Your child doesn’t notice the unwashed dishes in the sink, the carpet that needs vacuuming, or the piled up laundry.
4. Your child will notice that you don’t smile and laugh and talk and play with them. All they need in their formative years is you!
5. We will be better parents if we treat ourselves with understanding, acceptance and compassion
I do hope I remember this every time I try to beat myself up. I hope I can accept that I am doing my best and that there is no need to be perfect!
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