Happy New Year and welcome to the first post of 2015 on Indian American Mom!
As is customary, and usually always slated for defeat, most of us start off the new year with resolutions that we came up with on December 31st. I say, slated for defeat because it is statistically proven that the majority of people who make resolutions fail to keep them past the first few months of the new year!
Resolutions are usually about self-improvement; the top resolution made is to lose weight; the next could be to be more organized, more careful with money, to quit smoking, or to spend more time with their loved ones.
I stopped making New Year’s resolution ever since my twenties. I didn’t see the point because I knew how earnest I was about a promise I made in a half-drunk state the night before! Also, I knew how much will power I actually had; not a lot!
Another shocker that you may like to know is that I consider the ‘New Year’ as a pretty arbitrary man-made date; why give importance to a particular date that was artificially created just so we could mark time by some means? And, why should a resolution made on that particular day be so important; could we not resolve to make commitments to ourselves any other time of the year. We definitely could, but how many of us do?
So, when a few of my friends got together on New Year’s eve and had the ritual, started by one very annoying friend, of talking about our New Year’s resolutions, I did what I always did, and completely skirted the issue.
A few days later, an annoying husband brought up this topic again at the breakfast table with our boys! The Husband proclaimed that he had resolved to play some kind of board or card game with the boys at least 3 times a week for the new year.
Annoying; because now I had to top that, of course! A voice started whispering in my ear that I too hadn’t given a lot of time to my boys to just be with them; my attention to them was mainly to make them eat their food, clean up, get ready, do their homework and generally be their micro manager all day long!
The voice also reminded me that it was because of my previous discipline to read to my older son almost every night before bedtime that he now has an advanced vocabulary for his age, not to mention a delightful quirky sense of humor! It reminded me of how we have bonded over books and how a similar attachment between Little a and me was missing due to my own inertia.
So, of course, I opened my big mouth and resolved that at least 4 times a week (I had to be one better than The Husband!), I would read storybooks to both the boys. And, that was that! I actually like the resolution because it feels more concrete and doable than ‘I promise to lose weight and get a six-pack’! And, it is an activity that I enjoy doing!
The boys have different tastes in stories so, I am currently reading a Children’s Encyclopedia series for Little a, and Enid Blyton the Magic Faraway Tree Collection series for Big A! I must say that I’m loving it! I think I may well be keeping this resolution going for…well, a long time!
Did you make any New Year’s resolutions this year?!
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